I'm not going to claim to be an expert here, so perhaps someone who is a little closer to today's recruiting landscape can educate me, but I've been asking the same question for years.
Truly, what are the kids gaining or not gaining by these supposed "silent commits"? To me, you're a literal side chick. "Sure baby, you're my girl, but we just can't tell anyone about it. No no, don't post that. I love you too much to let the world know. Yeah, I'll be over later. On Christmas? Oh no, sorry, I'm working. But we can have our Christmas the next night, OK baby?"
You're a side hoe. I can see like a couple hours, or a day. If you want to get an edit made (as a grown man it's difficult to type that, but I get it), if you want to tell your family, something like that. But weeks? Months? I'm sure I'm missing something here, and I'm genuinely not being a smart ***, but what does a kid like Shemar Stewart, as a generic example, gain or not gain by telling Manny he's committing but not telling anyone else. Is it really that big of a state secret? Does he want to be able to go to other places and get paid for visits? And if so, is Manny letting silent commits take visits but not public commits? This all seems so silly.